Citation

Jordan JV. Women Ther. 2008; 31(2-4): 235-254.

Copyright

(Copyright © 2008, Informa - Taylor and Francis Group)

DOI

10.1080/02703140802146423

PMID

unavailable

Abstract

This article was originally presented at the May 2004 Learning from Women Conference sponsored by Harvard Medical School and the Jean Baker Miller Training Institute. It examines the ways in which cultural and personal denial of fear and vulnerability contribute to a sense of isolation. Fear is manipulated in hierarchical settings to ensure the preservation of existing power arrangements. In a culture built on exploitation of fear, people do not experience the safety necessary to let their inevitable vulnerabilities show. Unmitigated chronic fear is an unsafe context that leads to a traumatic sense of disempowerment and personal immobilization, whether it is in war, childhood sexual abuse, living with a battering partner, or, perhaps in a more subtle way, in being immersed in massages of un-safety, danger, and having no influence in the larger public domain. Through mutual empathy we can heal these places of fear and disconnection. Mutual empathy arises in a context of profound respect, authentic responsiveness, humility, non-defensiveness, an attitude of curiosity, mindfulness (staying with the "not knowing"), and an appreciation of the power of learning. Movement out of isolation helps us pass through fear to hope and ultimately leads to growth and more connection.

Keywords

Empathy; empowerment; fear; vulnerability; courage; isolation; connection; respect; mutuality; Relational-Cultural Model; authenticity; power; privilege; marginalization; radical respect; relational neurobiology; relational possibility