Citation

Snyder M. Women Ther. 1996; 19(3): 79-92.

Copyright

(Copyright © 1996, Informa - Taylor and Francis Group)

DOI

10.1300/J015v19n03_08

PMID

unavailable

Abstract

A case of a lesbian couple is presented in which one partner experienced early sexual abuse and the other a series of major losses (beginning with the death of her mother) in early childhood. The first partner developed an alcohol addiction and the second a high level of emotional lability and some practices of selfharm. Both partners developed dissociative patterns. The couple is now in a committed relationship and have continued in therapy for the last nine months, with sessions gradually becoming less frequent. The therapeutic work has included the "externalization" of the problem(s), some individual work within the couple session using Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and a strong emphasis on the development of empathic skill through the technique of "becoming" the other person. The case reveals the way in which a primary relationship often surfaces intense unresolved feel-ings and dysfunctional relationship practices, and also the way in which emotional commitment and a structure for the couple becoming therapeutic agents to each other allows for a deep level of healing. The couple comments on their relationship process and the therapeutic process as part of the article.